‘If you haven’t experienced trauma, please shut it’ Adesua Etomi tells rape apologists
Nollywood actress Adesua Etomi has a piece of advice for men and women who are questioning Busola Dakolo’s rape allegation against Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of Commonwealth of Zion Assembly.
The actress shared her own story of sexual assault as a child. Even though she wasn’t raped, Adesua Etomi said she felt so bad that an adult touched her sexually.
According to the actress, ‘mine? Lesson teacher. Man actually grabbed tits that I didn’t even really have. Ran out of the house. Told my aunty. She tried to make me continue the lessons. Her exact words were ‘if your teacher in school makes a pass, will you stop going to class? My mum believed me though’.
She added, ‘If you haven’t experienced trauma, pls shut it. I wasn’t raped but when he grabbed my tits, I froze out of fear before I realised that I could run and run I did’.
It is appalling that some Nigerians are defending sexual predators and rapists while conveniently blaming the victims for not reacting in certain way.
I have read different comments and posts from men and women alike poking holes in Busola Dakolo story without condemning the inappropriate actions of a supposed man of God.
I have seen people make silly remarks about her being a runs girl and having a child out of wedlock. I have read the posts of men calling her a slut for trying to bring down the ministry of a man of God.
One thing is clear, people are now speaking up about the sexual harassment and abuse they have suffered at the hands of heartless, irresponsible and disrespectful men. So, a lot of men are afraid. They are afraid that their past will come back to haunt them.
If you are still asking why Busola Dakolo waited this long to tell her story of rape, it seems you are afraid of your own past catching up with you. Otherwise, address the real issue or shut up.
