May you never love the wrong person

Dear woman, may you never love the wrong person. May you never love the person that will destroy your life. May you never fall in love with someone who is cold bloodied and won’t think twice about killing you.

I am a lover of crime channels on DSTV and many of the crimes that are solved on the series shown on this channel are centered on love, betrayal and senseless murders.

Some of the cases leave me angry, afraid and paranoid. And mostly, the victims are women. It is sad how women are endangered species all over the world.

Men kill women when they don’t want to date them. Men kill women if they want to break up with them. Men kill women if they refuse to respond to their cat calls.

Men kill women for wanting to divorce them after years of abuse. Some men even kill their children just to spite these women who suddenly got the courage to leave their sorry asses.

I feel sad watching these series but it has taught me a lot about human beings, their failings and twisted minds. It has taught me to look out for people’s words, actions and irrational behaviour.

But the one that broke me was the story of a young lady who was her mother’s only child. She was a brilliant and good student in her school, winning academic awards and doing her mother and family proud.

She was 20 years when she was murdered in her home. The killer set the house ablaze just to cover his crime but for some reason, the fire didn’t spread throughout the whole house like he wanted.

After months of thorough investigation, it was discovered that it was her boyfriend who killed her after raping her because she wanted him to leave her house after staying there for two days eating and drinking.

She loved him but he killed her. She only wanted him to leave because she wanted to go back to school before her mother comes back from her work trip.

She didn’t know that he had other plans. He wanted to rob her house and abscond with the money. She trusted him blindly but that was her undoing.

What about the story of the Lagos State University student who was murdered by her boyfriend and his mother and ate her heart because they wanted to be rich?

That story is heartbreaking. I couldn’t read that story twice. My heart broke for the young woman’s family. Her only crime was falling in love with a cold bloodied, greedy and dangerously ambitious young man who had a bad mother.

Dear woman, may you never fall in love with the wrong person! May you never fall in love with a killer! May you never fall in love with a man who won’t think twice about killing you just to make money!

Keep your eyes open. Trust your instincts. Pray for God’s discernment and protection always. May your life never be cut short by the man you love.