For many brides, having your dad – or another close family member – walk you down the aisle to your new husband is a hugely sentimental moment, and it’s one of the key parts of a wedding ceremony.
But one bride-to-be has been left outraged after her fiancé told her to “look for someone else” who could fill the position, as he refuses to let her dad be so heavily involved in their wedding.
The woman said that while she is on “great terms” with her dad, her husband-to-be isn’t a fan because they keep butting heads on a variety of issues – including the fact that her dad has refused to give them any money for their wedding.
She doesn’t see the lack of financial support as a problem since they can afford to fund the big day themselves, but her fiancé says her dad “should be grateful he’s still invited”
In a post on Reddit, she said: “My fiance and I have been together for over two years. I don’t have a big family, just my dad and my older sister. My dad has always been a single parent devoting his life to me and my sister and working over 14 jobs in the past 6 years to provide for us. I love my dad and we have the best relationship anyone could hope for.
“However, my fiance does not get along with him. They have different opinions on so many things. For example, my fiance one time suggested to my dad to sell the truck he has because it’s been sitting [on his drive] for years. My dad got offended because this is my grandfather’s truck and he has no money to get it fixed.
“Their recent disagreement was when my dad refused to give my fiance money to contribute to the wedding. My fiance complained but I said that my dad isn’t obligated to pay for the wedding.
“Yesterday, my fiance told me to look for ‘someone else’ to walk me down the aisle and asked why. He said that my dad refused to help with the wedding and he should be grateful he’s still invited.
“I got upset and argued that for one, my dad refused to contribute because he has no money, he can not afford to pay. And two, just like any bride, I want my dad to walk me down the aisle on my wedding day. He threw a fit saying that I was trying to ruin his mood and get him upset on our wedding day but I called him selfish for wanting to take away the moment I always dreamed of over his disagreements with dad.
“It’s not fair given that me and my dad are on great terms. He yelled at me for calling him selfish because it’s our wedding not just mine and said that I clearly don’t give a hoot if he’s uncomfortable then walked out. He’s fuming and is insisting I’m being inconsiderate and projecting on him when I called him selfish.”
Commenters on the post urged the woman to think about whether going ahead with the wedding is a good idea, especially as her fiancé is showing several signs of “red flags” with his behaviour.
One person said: “Every one of the ‘disagreements’ you listed sounds like your fiancé being a jerk and your dad doing nothing wrong. And now your fiancé is trying to prevent you from having an important moment with your father on your wedding day because of petty nonsense. Your fiancé sounds a lot worse than selfish to me.”
While another added: “Why the f**k are you marrying this guy? He doesn’t get along with your only parent for stupid reasons. You can find someone who treats you and your family nicely, so do it. Marrying this guy would be the biggest mistake of your life.”
And a third wrote: “Think carefully before marrying someone who wants to alienate you from your father on the most important day of your life. These are red flags.”