A woman took to Reddit to get opinions on the infamous “Am I The A–hole” forum after finding herself in serious conflict with her husband.
She said she laughed at the idea of voiding the prenuptial agreement he asked her to sign in the first place before they got married.
According to the post, when the couple married, he was making decent money as a software engineer while she was going to graduate school, racking up student loans while picking up a small paycheck on the side.
She agreed to sign a prenup which stated that “our financials would always be separate and the only thing we would share was an expense account to pay for household-related fees.”
Some women would have taken this request as a red flag, but at the time, it didn’t bother the Reddit user much. Perhaps another red flag, however, was her husband’s refusal to discuss his salary with her, claiming it to be “rude.”
For years, the couple didn’t discuss their personal finances even as the poster graduated and got a job that she estimated to be paying her three times more than what he made, based on her knowledge of his starting salary and promotions.
Finally making cool money, she decided to buy a new car, able to do so in cash with the money she had saved up in her separate bank account.
When her husband found out that she had been able to do this, he was shocked, and pretty soon was bringing up that old prenup again.
“He didn’t talk after that and I thought that was that,” she wrote, “however after a few hours he came back to me and told that he thinks we should void the prenup……This is where I might be the asshole I laughed in his face and asked him why I would agree to that and his answer was that we’re married and should share our financials.”
“So I told him that we’ve been married for 6 years and yet we’ve never shared financials and I was fine with what we were doing, and his sudden change of heart was very suspicious. He called me a bunch of names and stormed out and didn’t come home and and I guess he told his family about our fight and they called to berate me and say how he supported me while I was in school (he didn’t) and now am wondering if I was the a–hole??”
