“I F27 and my husband M29 have been together for 3 years. In those 3 years, I have never have known him to be selfish, occasionally immature yes, but even that was rare.
These problems arose when those stu:pid cake smashing videos got popular and my husband thought they were hilarious. I’ve never thought they were funny and he knows that, yet he was always showing me the videos of those poor wives getting the happiest day of their life ruined by their male partner for some cheap laughs. He also knows I have a history with cake smashing.
My family does the cake smashing thing. I remember it was my 17th birthday and I pleaded with my mom to not do it. She promised and I trusted her. I had my hair and makeup done up all nice and right as I blew out my candles my mom pushed my head into the cake and one of the decorations on the cake ended up slicing my forehead. Not enough to go to the hospital but enough for some substantial blending.
My birthday was ruined and after I wouldn’t come out my room. My mom still calls me a brat for that. I told him if he ever did something like that to me I’d leave him. He started laughing but I was being for real. Though he really was not taking me seriously.
Now skip to a few days ago when my wedding happened. Everything was perfect, I was happy, he was happy. I was excited for our new lives as newlyweds. I felt like a princess in my poofy white dress and done up hair with perfect make-up. All very expensive things I would like to mention.
We get to the cake cutting part and as I turn to him he scoops up a huge chunk of our wedding cake and smashes it all over my face. Everything just seemed to go in slow motion for a few moments. He’s just laughing at me, and then says “you should see your face” and continues to laugh. Other people in the crowd (mostly my family) is also laughing at me.
Then I just start walking away, he realizes that I’m leaving and tries to catch up with me and says I’m being extra. I push him away and order an uber. As I got outside most of the crowd is following me telling me to come back. I get into the uber and drive away. I drove to our apartment and packed most of my things and went to stay at a hotel. I currently though am staying at a friend’s house.
My family and his family has been blowing up my phone for days. Saying I’m being childish and my husband is a good man and it was just a joke. My husband has been calling me off the hook telling me to please come home and that he wants to talk. That he’s sorry and didn’t think I’d get that “emotional”.
This was supposed to be the happiest day of our lives and he embarrassed me in front of everyone for some prank that he knew I hated. Not only that, he ruined a 500 dollar cake. He ruined my makeup, my hair and the top of my dress. The cake got all over. Though I still do love him and I’m wondering if I really was to hard on him, that seems to be everyone else’s opinion.
So AITA?”