Guest Justin Waller admitted to host Brad Lea that he is not okay with wives traveling on girls’ trips, and Lea agreed. They went so far as to compare their spouses to their trucks — a possession that shouldn’t be out of their sight.
A husband argued that girls’ trips are never actually ‘for girls,’ and they’re just an excuse for wives to cheat on their partners.
Instead of celebrating individuality in a relationship, which is not only extremely healthy for long-term connections but also for each partner’s mental health, these two men condemned any and all alone time — especially girls’ trips.
Waller even said that a “good woman” wouldn’t want to go away without her husband and, not surprisingly, he, along with Lea, offended a great many people with their assertions.
@ruckup.officialDo not allow your wife to do anything without your permission!!#wifes#husband#spouse#marriageadvice#marryme#wedding#partners♬ original sound – RuckUp
A TikTok from a husband called RuckUp criticized the outdated thinking in a stitch, stating, “All I’m saying is that our wives are adults, and they’re capable of doing things themselves and putting themselves in good or bad situations — just like we are …She’s free to do whatever she wants.”
The husband said girls’ trips aren’t wholesome or valuable and ‘Good women wouldn’t even want to go.’
“I’m not a big fan of girls’ trips,” host Lea agreed. “There’s just no such thing.”
“It’s just controlling,” RuckUp said, denouncing the men’s opinions. “If [your wife] doesn’t want to go on the girl’s trip … that’s completely understandable. But, all of you guys come on here and make it sound like it’s your choice that they don’t get to do these things, so yeah, you probably get flack for it.”
While it seems to mostly be men who are threatened by the idea of a girls’ trip, some women also take a similar approach — arguing that if you were happy in your marriage, you’d never feel the need to “go out” or party.
However, there’s a misguided notion that wanting time away from your significant other, even on a girls’ trip, has anything to do with fidelity. You’re not flirting by talking to another man. You’re not cheating by going out partying and hanging out with your friends.
Obviously, there are certain expectations and boundaries you can communicate with your partner — that’s your prerogative — but finding ways to control someone who doesn’t cater to your every insecurity isn’t a partnership; it’s an unhealthy power dynamic.
