Fantasia Barrino thinks the reason “why you can’t find a man” is because more women need to submit to their men.
The topic of submission is always a slippery slope, but Fantasia had no problem discussing her thoughts around the subject on The Breakfast Club.
She believes that there are too many women who are trying to take on a man’s role which she considers the lead role when they should, as she says, submit to their partners.
“Most women are trying to be the leader. That’s why you can’t find a man,” she said. “You can’t be the king in the house. Fall back and be the queen and let your man lead the way.”
She continued, “You have to find how to submit. You can still be a queen. The queen plays a part. The king needs his queen. There’s certain things that he can’t see that we see.”
Many folks, especially women, found fault with the singer’s stance that independent women can sometimes come across as too masculine. This has started a debate around the concept of submission that has the Internet divided.
We decided to join the conversation in order to gain more clarity around the views of submission from real women by asking the ladies at BET this:
Do you think women need to be more submissive in relationships and let the man take the lead? Do you practice submission in your relationship(s)?
Why Is Submission Reserved For Women?
“What I find interesting is this concept that submission is reserved for the woman. I think healthy relationships see exchanges of submission. And those exchanges aren’t necessarily as equal as they are complimentary. For me, personally, I’ve come to learn that I find a sense of freedom and empowerment in submitting – s€xually and emotionally – to my romantic partner.
As a Black-Brown woman playing a functioning piece of the White corporate puzzle, I have to constantly compete, over compensate and/or perform mental gymnastics to be seen or taken seriously. Submitting in these professional rooms often means playing by the rules, taking all things for face value, and at the expense of my intelligence and/or creative + personal integrity.
If no other room in the world, I’d like to know I have the permission to just show up and give myself and be responded to with care and respect for doing such in my romantic relationship(s).
