Be a girl. Sit like a girl. Don’t raise your voice. Play with dolls. Wear pink. Go to school.
Don’t talk back when a boy is talking. Learn to smile when you are abused. If you are abused, it’s your fault.
Apply makeup. Wear dresses. Sex is dirty. Be ashamed of sex. You don’t have to enjoy sex. Sex is not for your pleasure. Only whores enjoy sex.
Diet to be in shape. Don’t lose your man to a hotter woman. Be fashionable but modest. Don’t be a wild dresser.
Don’t wear nose rings. Don’t wear ankle bracelets. Be ashamed of your anatomy.
Give your man more sex. Good sex keeps a man from philandering. Fight for your man. Fight to keep your relationship. Break side chicks heads. They are the home breakers. Your cheating husband must be under a spell.
Shop. Cook. Clean. Wash. Iron. Scrub. Dust. Be domesticated. Men love homely women. They make good wives. a woman is useless if she doesn’t know how to cook and clean.
Don’t let a man know you are smart. Don’t rub your intelligence in a man’s face. You must not earn more money than your man. He’s your head. You must remain under him.
Get married. Have children. Keep your home. You don’t have to follow your dreams. Your man will dream for both of you. You are now his property. Worship him. Serve him. Love him. Obey him. men hate disobedient women. Say yes to everything he says. men are smarter than women. Women have fish brains.
Stay married at all costs. Don’t leave your marriage even if it’s killing you. Your marriage is your life. You are nothing without a man. Marriage defines your existence. You have no name without marriage.
Stay home. You don’t have to work. Your workshop is your home. Watch TV. Wear stilettos. Wear only what husband wants. Dress like a married woman. Don’t bring shame to your man.
Don’t disgrace your family. Do what’s best for your family. You must live for others to be a good woman. It is great gain to be a virtuous woman. Obey rules and regulations. Obey instructions.You don’t have to question things. This society knows what is good for you.
Be a moron. Be quiet. Be a woman. Be humble. Be submissive. Be subservient. Be obedient. be loving. Be a good woman. Be available. be approachable. Don’t be proud. Don’t turn down a man’s advances. Don’t be arrogant, you won’t get a man to marry you.
If you are free from this bullshit, say I am free. Because, I am so free. I live my life free form the hypocritical expectations of this patriarchal society. I do what is best for me and damn all the name calling. I am my own woman. I am a liberated woman. My name is Kate Halim.
When I started reading I felt like “what, I can never do this”.
Then when I got to the last paragraph I felt ooooo this is it.
I am not letting the society define my life, I am living it to the fullest according to God’s plan. If my husband wants a side chick that is fine, I will do my best but I won’t kill myself, I deserve love, respect, pampering and security.
I am a WOMAN!