A Nigerian man has stirred mixed reactions on Twitter, after he shared his opinion about what a woman’s ambition should be.
Taking to Twitter, @kingdubie_ said the utmost goal of a woman should be to have a happy home with happy kids.
He stated this while announcing that his wife will be a full-time housewife as he won’t let her get a job or own a business.
According to the Twitter user who called himself a traditional man, he already has an investment plan in place to provide everything his family would need to survive without his wife pitching in.
@kingdubie_ wrote:
“I will get married and my wife will be a house wife
That’s my choice …, I’m already making the necessary investments..
I’m a traditional man … and this is the best thing… I will provide for my family
Wifey won’t work
Now y’all should drag your keypad”
Women have ambitions too … and that should be a happy home with happy kids
Women never find that everlasting Joy if they don’t get to have a family at the end .., no matter the fame and money.”
I’m not surprised about this tweet. This is how many Nigerian men see women…as cooks, cleaners, baby makers and need meeters.
Most men don’t want their wives to work or do business because they want to control these women. They know that when women have money, they won’t accept abuse of any kind.
He says it’s his choice but is it the woman’s choice? How come he knows what women’s ambitions are? Is he a woman? Why should a man determine what should make a woman happy and fulfilled?
Are there women who believe in traditional gender roles and don’t mind being housewives? Yes. Are there women who don’t mind enduring all kinds of abuse in marriage just to have the illusion of a happy home? Yes.
My issue is that men who claim to be traditional and those who say they don’t want their wives to work or do business to make money don’t go after women who want the same thing as they do.
These men go after career minded women, business oriented women and then start demanding submission from them by insisting they resign from their jobs or close up their businesses so that they can build their marriages.
Ambition is an individual thing. Women shouldn’t give up their ambition just to please men. Men, go for your kind in marriage and stop telling women what their ambition should be. That’s nonsense.
