Wife of popular footballer, Joseph Yobo, Adaeze Yobo has revealed how the footballer’s retirement affected their marriage.
In a recent chat with Mercy Johnson Okojie in her cook show,the former beauty Queen disclosed that she was glad when he eventually retired but she was bothered about him.
“I was happy he retired, we traveled around, moved around, and stayed around 5 different cities but I had the fear of how he will cope cos he breathes football and that is how he makes money, I spoke to him and talked him through it and he came out okay cos I told him it’s okay for him to tell me when he feels sad.”
She also talked about her marriage to the footballer which she described as beautiful.
“We met when I was 19 and he was blunt, he knew what he wanted from day one. I want to be your friend, he didn’t beat around the bush…a month later he gave me a promise ring and said he wanted to marry me. I told my mum and she is like what about your university education but he promised he will let me go to school and support me through it even in marriage and he did. I went to school in LA.”
At one time, the mother of three shared her not-so-pleasant experience after delivery in order to encourage other women who might find themselves depressed after delivery.
“The worst kind of Postpartum depression” after my first child, it lasted for more than a year. I thought I’ll never fully recover, be happy or get myself back again, I was in a very dark place at a point in my life that was supposed to be the happiest.”
“Some days I’ll go into the restroom and cry out, once I’m done ill feel relieved, wipe my face and continue what I was doing as nothing happened. There was no particular reason for the cry, it just comes like a rushing wave, fills up my chest and I’ll run to let it out.”
Adaeze Yobo added: “I didn’t know there was a name to what I was going through because back then in Nigeria, the idea of PPD/PND was almost Non-existent. I never told anyone for the fear of being judged or people close to me making assumptions about my sanity. Probably why my PPD lasted that long. I can’t imagine how I would have survived that now.”
