A 28-year-old woman, who used a throwaway account on Reddit, named u/Throwaway9757657, posted, “AITA for my reaction when I learned that my fiance returned my wedding dress and replaced it with the one his mom picked for me?”
Describing her predicament, she wrote, “My fiance M33, and I are getting married in December. His mom is the intrusive type but she’s nice overall and we….somewhat get along. I hate to admit that wedding planning has been an absolute nightmare. His mom wasn’t willing to agree on most things, and my fiance said that since he’s her only son then I should respect and appreciate this ‘vision’ she has for the wedding and how it should be.”
The woman said that as the shopping for her wedding dress began, her fiance’s mother also decided to tag along. She stated, “I took her with me and my mom and friends. I was so lucky to have found what I was looking for. but she picked a dress that she liked so much and said that ‘she always pictured her son’s bride in it’ Mom and friends thought this line was creepy.”
“I thought the dress was somewhat creepy and totally not my type. I apologized and thanked her for her ‘vision’ but told her that I’d already decided on a dress that I had ‘envisioned’ myself wearing at my wedding! She got all pissy because of it apparently, then must’ve told my fiance because he came home in the evening ranting about how I made his mom upset and ‘turned down’ her help in choosing the wedding dress,” she added.
u/Throwaway9757657 also noted that her fiance “got upset and said that this attitude of mine isn’t working on him or his mom. He said that I should consider the dress his mom wanted me to buy especially knowing that ‘both dresses weren’t that much different anyway like she said but I told him yes they were different…like so much different.”
She further explained, “Yesterday I came home and found out that he had returned my wedding dress and replaced it with the one his mom wanted. I called him and he was straightforward about what he did and why he did it. I lost it and started screaming at him. He asked me to calm down and really give this dress ‘a chance’. I refused to even listen I screamed at him without giving him a chance to speak.”
She added that her mother “is livid and has been wanting to go scream at him and his mom but my dad said that this isn’t worth ruining my relationship with my inlaws. He suggested I wisen up and ‘go with the flow’ but is it too much for me to be able to pick my own wedding dress without being guilted about it just to keep the peace?,” before adding, “AITA for my reaction?”
