This is how Nigerian mothers are damaging their children

Many Nigerian mothers are damaging their children. They are damaging their children’s spirit and destroying their self esteem.

It’s one thing that as a mother, you want the best for your child and your want them to do well, it’s another thing when you constantly compare your child to other children.

It hurts when you keep measuring your child’s success and growth with that of their mates. You are damaging your child’s self esteem.

Nigerian mothers on facebook…

My 3-year-old son cannot count 1 to 500. My neighbour’s 3-year-old son is solving calculus already, what should I do?

My 10-year-old is the smallest in her class. She looks like a 7-year-old, what should I give her to make her taller than Mount Everest?

My 13-year-old daughter hasn’t written a book like my church member’s daughter who is a child author and they are age mates, what should I do?

Ways mothers are damaging their children

My 12-year-old son doesn’t like playing football, he loves music but I want him to be like my cousin’s son who is good at playing football. How do I make him like football?

My son doesn’t talk much. He keeps to himself a lot. I want him to talk more like sister’s son because he’s very intelligent. Is there a way I can get him to become a chatterbox?

My daughter doesn’t love playing with dolls like our neighbour’s daughter. She plays football with her brothers. How can I stop her from behaving like a boy?

My child has not come first in school like my pastor’s child, is it that the school is sidelining her or what? My husband and I topped our classes in our days. Yinmu.

Dear Nigerian parents, especially mothers who come on facebook to ask these silly questions, what is it?

Why are you bent on raising damaged children? Why do you keep comparing your children to their mates?

Have you taken time to get to know your child or children? Do you know their strengths and weaknesses?

Do you know their temperaments? Do you know what makes them happy and the things that break their spirit?

Do you know the talents and gifts you child possesses? How are you helping them make good use of those God given abilities?

Are you raising happy, content, and well rounded children or you are so blinded with what other people’s children are doing that you lose sight of what’s important?

Why the unhealthy competition? Why the unhealthy comparisons? Why belittle your child because you want them to be like someone else? Why hurt their self esteem that way?


I am a woman who is passionate about empowering other women to live their best lives and be free from unhealthy societal expectations. I'm a journalist and a columnist with a reputable media house. I educate, inspire and encourage women to embrace their uniqueness fully. I am a mother to an intelligent girl. I love perfumes.

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