Many men just love stringing women along for years without settling down.
A young lady named Stella has been dating Francis for over two years now, but he doesn’t act committed to their relationship in some ways.
With a baby to care for in his absence, as he went in search of greener pastures in another state, Stella feels stranded and stuck in a relationship she believes is not heading anywhere.
She is not alone. Many ladies just don’t feel their men are as committed as they are in their relationships.
This may be just a feeling but it may also be that the men are not ready to settle down with them because they are content with just stringing these women along and wasting their time.
Navigating the world of relationships can be a tricky business especially for women in this part of the world. It’s important to be clear about what you both want in a relationship.
As a rule, if you don’t know where you stand with a guy, it’s probably because he’s stringing you along. If a guy wants to be with you, he will make you feel loved and wanted.
If you feel uncertain about where you stand with a guy, that’s no accident. Pay attention to your instincts. Take note of the points listed below to find out if your man is stringing you along and wasting your time.
1. He’s not sure you are the one
A guy who is not sure if you are the one for him will be careful about giving you that impression. For your part, you may be stuck wondering where the two of you stand. He never refers to you as his girlfriend, even if you have been together for several months.
The most telling sign a guy is keeping you around because he’s just not sure about you and you have not met any important person in his life or family whose opinion he values.
A guy has no interest in having that conversation with his mother or father about who you are and ‘where this is going’ unless he’s absolutely sure it’s heading for something more long-term.
2. You never attend public events with him
You happen to know he’s had several office parties, a friend’s birthday party, and a wedding he attended. And instead of inviting you with him on those events, he told you he was tied up on those nights. He wants to appear single at those events. That’s why.
3. He is all over you in secret
He barely makes time to see you in private, but when he does, he’s all over you. Don’t take it as a compliment: he’s doing that because he knows he has no intention of seeing you again for a long time, so he’s scooping a feel while he can.
4. He is uncomfortable around your friends
He is quiet and awkward around your friends, and seems uncomfortable when you touch him around them. He’s afraid if he acts too into you around your friends, you will read that as him wanting to be a big part of your life.
5. He deflects your compliments
If when you are together, you tell him he’s so kind or so generous but he gives you an awkward look. He also waves it aside. He is just avoiding a moment of intimacy. He’s stringing you along.
6. He suddenly ups his game when there’s competition
When other men are giving you attention, he suddenly starts fawning all over you. You will know a man is stringing you along when he’s worried that the woman he texts for an ego boost or late night hookup will be taken away from him.
7. He jokes about you liking other guys
If he sees you looking at another guy, he jokes about that. ‘’You like that guy don’t you?” and seems totally okay with that. In other words, he wants you to know that you are free to do what you want, so that he is free to do what he wants. He’s stringing you along for a ride.
8. He’s using you as a rebound
Sometimes, it seems as though he never stops talking about his ex or hating on other women in general. These are clear signs he’s rebounding.
He’s stringing you along when he tells you he’s not looking for a commitment. He’s using physical intimacy with you as a way to avoid dealing with his breakup and is not interested in any level of emotional intimacy.
9. He has to ‘get back to you’ about plans
When you ask him to do something on a date in the future, he has to get back to you. In other words, he has to make sure there isn’t something better he can do first. He wants to be sure that the woman he likes more doesn’t want to hang out that day. This a clear sign that he’s stringing you along.
10. He invites you to lots of group things
He invites you to hang out, but only in group settings. That way, he has the option to hook up with you if he feels like it, but it’s not an official date. He’s just stringing you along, and you have to let him go if you want a committed relationship.
