Woman, stop chasing after people who don’t want you in their lives
Dear woman in Nigeria, stop chasing after people who don’t want to be in your life and those who don’t want you in theirs. Stop being the only one trying desperately to fix things in your relationships with people.
Stop giving people the impression that they are very important to you and losing them will make you unhappy and disorganized. Stop doing that to yourself.
Some people love to play God in other people’s lives and giving them this opportunity to show off their god complex will mess up your life and toy with your emotions.
It is okay to be a loving and caring woman. It is okay to be friendly and dependable. It is okay to be selfless when it comes to others that you are willing to do things for them without expecting something back in return.
What is not okay is allowing other people to keep using you because you are afraid of losing them. What is not okay is being in one sided friendships and relationships where you are the only one making all the efforts to keep the relationship going.
It is mentally and physically exhausting to be the only one fighting to make a friendship and relationship work. You will wear yourself out. You will be left drained. You will begin to second guess yourself. You will begin to doubt your ability to keep relationships and that’s not fair.
You have to be at peace with whoever comes and goes from your life. You have to be mentally and emotionally strong to detect bullshit and say no to it immediately. You don’t have to beg for love. Love should come naturally between both parties in friendships and relationships.
Woman, don’t be the only one putting in efforts in your friendships and relationships because you might lose yourself in a bid to keep unwilling people in your life. Don’t do that to yourself. You deserve the same love you give to other people effortlessly.