A newlywed woman has narrated the struggles she encounters cohabitating with her mother-in-law who moved in with them on their wedding night.
According to a woman who sent a mail to a relationship adviser, her marriage started off more uninteresting than she imagined.
Read her story below:
I’m a newlywed. I just got married on Sunday. My Mother In Law followed us home since then and has refused to go home.
Normally, we are newlyweds aren’t we supposed to be alone at first? Or I’m I wrong? We didn’t give birth now. She took over my husband room, that’s where she’s been sleeping since Sunday night.
What if we are staying in one room? Is that how she will take over my matrimonial bed? Because we are not supposed to be sleeping in my room. We have a guest room but she prefers to sleep on our own bed.
She also said she will be spending two weeks with us, That she came to rest here. I don’t get it, is my husband’s house a relaxation center? PS: we just rented a house for her, well furnished and comfortable.
I didn’t even enjoy my wedding night. She slept in my husbands room on our bed. I’m not even enjoying my marriage in the first week. No marital thrill or such after the wedding to talk of honeymoon.
And she’s always pinning on me like my prayers are too short, I’m not doing this or that, why I’m I still sleeping and in the that, why I’m I still sleeping and in the kitchen by this time, I’m always on my phone ( I run an online store o! How won’t I press phone) I’m this I’m that I’m this.
I recently closed down my store because we were moving before marriage. Sometimes she will say it jokingly but just to insult me. Like I’m walking on ice cubes, just being careful at everything I do or say. I’m not free or comfortable.
She came two days before our wedding since then she has been ordering me about to the extent that I forgot to make my hair and my nails until Saturday night, and eventually I could only weave my hair. I didn’t do my wedding nails as a bride.
She said breakfast should be ready by 7 am and dinner before 7 pm. She said if the meal is past 7pm, she won’t eat it. I have to be knocking the door before I enter my husband’s room.
It’s just barely four days we wedded. I really don’t understand. Me and my husband have to be sleeping in my room. I need advice here. This thing is driving me insane. I’ve read several stories about MILs but I never thought this could happen to me and this early in my marriage.
I’ve not told my husband how I feel but I know he sees nothing wrong with it through his words and behaviour. I already know what he will say if I talk about it because he sees it like she came to rest here. And I don’t want to start bringing up such issues as I feel it’s too early in my marriage.
Maybe she has an hidden motive or mission only God knows cause I don’t know what to think or feel. I’m just exhausted I need help.”
