My fiance (31) is short. His height has always been a source of insecurity for him and he takes others comments too seriously.
With our wedding approaching, he asked if I’d consider wearing flat shoes at the wedding. I was confused, like very confused I asked if he was joking but he went on a rant about how doesn’t want to be made fun of on his own wedding and that if I choose to wear high heels then we will look ‘awkward’ in the photos and infront of the guests.
I refused and he kept calling me selfish and inconsiderate and said that I prioritized a bare of high heels over his comfort and happiness for the big day.
He had his mom involved and she is pushing me to reconsider. When I refused to discuss it she said that my unwillingness to cooperate is a huge indicator of my level of maturity.
She then went on a long rant about what lengths ‘real wives’ are willing to go to to help out their husbands and said that I’m apparently too immature and shallow to be committed in a marriage if I make such an issue out of it.
Am I being selfish? It’s not just about what I want but the high heels help make the wedding dress look better and I feel like I deserve to look my best at my own wedding just like every bride’s dream. His insecurity is preventing me from getting that. AITA?
To clarify the issue, I’m slightly taller but he said he doesn’t want me to look any taller than that.
(answering some questions)
(1). The gusts he was talking about are his male friends, and the men in his family. They comment on his height all the time, call him names from “shorty, koala, Lil D, hobbit” and the list is long. They even have a list of jokes about him.
(2). Like I said, I’m slightly taller and he doesn’t want me to be any taller.
(3). We had similar arguments about this height issue before but this is the first time he asks me to not wear heels. Other times he lets me wear them but sometimes refuses to attend events with me.
(4). I’m 27 for those who are asking about my age.
