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If you are giving your all to someone and it is not enough, you are giving it to the wrong person

If you are giving your all to someone and it is not enough, you are giving it to the wrong person.

Some people can only pretend to love you for as long as they can use you. Unfortunately, their loyalty ends where the benefits end.

Nigerian women need to learn how to stop giving too much in a relationship. Giving your all to the wrong man will drain you emotionally and mentally.


When you give more than your partner, you are shortchanging yourself. You are telling him that he doesn’t have to put in efforts to make the relationship work.

When you give your all and get nothing in return, it is time to reevaluate your relationships and the people in your life. You don’t give your all to someone who feels it’s not enough.

Stay away from people who are always receiving from you without giving back in return. You will end up tired, frustrated, angry and bitter. I know you don’t want that.

You don’t need to waste your time with people who only want you around when it suits their needs. They are just using you.

Love yourself enough to set standards and boundaries in your relationships. Don’t allow users drain you. Leave users alone.

As you go through life, stop giving your time, energy, money and your heart to people who haven’t earned it. They will mismanage your loyalty.

Raise the standards in your relationships so that the people around you can learn how you want to be treated.

As a woman living in Nigeria, you need to raise your standards about what you expect from people in order to allow them into your life. Don’t allow people use you.

When you give too much in a relationship, you start feeling alone in your. You start questioning your decisions to give your all. This is because you are not able to take care of your own emotional needs.

You are also afraid that if you stop excessive giving, your partner may become unhappy and leave. Sometimes, the fear of being alone makes women give their all to the wrong men in relationships and this is never enough.

You should give people a chance to earn what you have to give, but you don’t have to give it away freely, or you’ll have nothing left eventually.

It is not enough to give your all to someone who doesn’t reciprocate your love. They have to match your actions too.

Don’t forget that if you keep giving your all to a relationship and it’s not enough, you are giving it to the wrong person.

No matter how nice you are, stop trying to fix people who only care about using you to get whatever they want. They will drain you and leave you empty. These people are wrong for you. People who use you are wrong for your heart and life.

You need to understand that some people are incapable of loving others and it is not your job to try to save them. If you continue to give them what they want all the time, they will never stop demanding things from you.

If you are giving your all to someone and it is not enough, note that you are giving it to the wrong person. Learn to say no sometimes. It is for your own good.

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I am a woman who is passionate about empowering other women to live their best lives and be free from unhealthy societal expectations. I'm a journalist and a columnist with a reputable media house. I educate, inspire and encourage women to embrace their uniqueness fully. I am a mother to an intelligent girl. I love perfumes.


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