A Redditor decided to share a story of how she ‘made fun’ of a woman for being single in her 40s after they had a misunderstanding.
The OP took it to the Am I The A-hole subreddit to ask if she’s in the wrong or not, and let the court of Reddit decide.
The Reddit User wrote:
“This whole saga started because my husband took my last name. A couple weeks ago he got his workplace to change it, and his coworkers found out.
About half of them think this is the funniest thing ever and about half are deeply offended.
Brenda is in the offended half, and has made that clear. He and I are in a group chat with his coworkers where we organize carpooling during the pandemic. It is very helpful to us, so we can’t leave the chat. Since he changed his name, my husband and I have been dealing with a lot of dumb jokes in the chat, which we have been mostly ignoring.
Yesterday Brenda, his coworker and I got into a bit of a spat. I messaged the group asking if someone could take my husband home since I wouldn’t be back from work until late and needed the car. One of his other coworkers agreed, and I thought that was that.
Brenda messages the group saying “maybe if you spent less time at work and more time being a wife, your husband wouldn’t come into work with dirty shirts” I took this as a bad joke initially.
My husband is a rural mail carrier, so his shirts look like shirts worn by someone in 90 degree heat on dusty roads. I do wash them, but there’s only so much to be done.
Me: I could make cleaning those shirts my full-time job and it wouldn’t do much lol.
Brenda: You won’t be married very long if you keep trying to be the man in the relationship. I’d be embarrassed as a wife if I did so little for my husband
Me: well I work more hours and pay the bills, so I think he can oxyclean his own shirts if it’s so important
Brenda: Maybe you should learn to take proper care of your husband or you’ll find yourself divorced.
Me: I’ll let you know when I need relationship advice from someone who is 42 and single.
Now apparently Brenda is going around and saying that I “mocked her for being single in her 40s”. I don’t care if someone is single in their 40s, but I think it’s absolute bullsh#t that she can call me a bad wife but I can’t point out she has no frame of reference. AITA reddit?”
