Many Nigerian men can’t handle rejection. These men believe that women are trophies to be won and therefore, they have no right to say no to their advances.
These men can’t stand women saying no to them. This lack of emotional maturity make these men to resort to name calling and slut shaming women who reject their love advances.
Unfortunately for these boys in men’s bodies, every woman has the right to reject a man she doesn’t want to be with. There’s no written law anywhere that a woman must go into a relationship with a man whenever he declares love for her.
If a woman is not interested in you, accept it and move on. There are many women left in Nigeria you can choose from. It’s no big deal. What you don’t do is start insulting and slut shaming her. That’s insecurity screaming loudly.
But why can’t Nigerian men accept being rejected in good faith? It is because of the way they were brought up. Our society elevates the male gender over the female and make men feel so special that saying no to them hurts their fragile ego.
While rejection is not the end of a man’s life, but because Nigerian men are not used to being rejected by women they woo, they start throwing tantrums all over the place over her rejection. Many Nigerian men need to grow up and learn how to handle rejection like adults.
These are 10 reasons Nigerian men can’t handle rejection well:
- They feel entitled to a woman’s acceptance
- They feel angry for wasting their time on her
- They feel bad because their friends would laugh at them
- It hurts their ego
- They feel they have failed trying to impress her
- They are not used to women rejecting them
- They feel bad for not being who she wants
- They feel like they haven’t done enough to win her over
- They didn’t get their way with her
- They think every woman wants a relationship
It is sad that many mothers spend all their energy raising a decent, well rounded girl child and then thrust her into society and into the arms of men who are insecure and childish. Things have to change and fast too.
I agree with this. The behaviour you describe is rooted in misogyny and it’s not just limited to Nigerian men. Men who hate women and see them as objects or property – instead of people with own minds and feelings – generally behave in a childishly splenetic fashion when they don’t get what they want. I have to say, though, that with Nigerian men, the sulking tends to morph into projection and they accuse women of undesirable behaviours that, most certainly, they are afflicted by. It’s quite sad, to be honest. That’s one of many reasons I keep away from them. I don’t tolerate immature people generally but immature men, especially those that wouldn’t dare miss a breath to tell you constantly that they are the ‘leaders’ and throw their hubristic weight about? Even worse.
It’s terrible that a woman is seen as something to be acquired and she doesn’t have the luxury of saying no. It’s appalling.