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If you don’t love yourself, you will end up with people who don’t love you

Dear Nigerian woman, if you don’t love yourself, you will end up with people who don’t love you either.

Some people will prey on you and your desire to be loved.

They will play games with your heart because you are desperate for love.


They know you will settle for anything just to have someone in your life.


They know you will give your all to the relationship while they give you little or nothing.

As a woman, if you don’t love yourself, you will begin to doubt yourself and make mistakes.

Lack of self love makes you desperate and vulnerable for abuse in relationships and friendships.

Can someone love you if you don’t love yourself? You can’t really love another person genuinely until you love yourself and treat yourself right.

Self love is so important for women on relationships because it means accepting your emotions for what they are and putting your physical, emotional and mental well-being first.

Self love motivates you to make healthy choices in life. As a Nigerian woman, when you hold yourself in high esteem, you are more likely to choose things that nurture your well-being and smell abuse from a mile away.


Without self love, people will trample on you in life. They will leave you exhausted trying to please them without leaving anything for yourself.

On the flip side, when you don’t love yourself, you will have trouble believing your person when they tell you how much they care.

You will doubt every nice word they have to say about you because you struggle to realize your worth. You don’t see what they see in you.

You wonder whether they are lying to make you feel better about yourself or whether they really have strong feelings for you.

You also start thinking that they are going to end up disappointed once they learn the truth about some of your weaknesses.

Dear woman, love yourself and allow other people love you too. If you don’t love yourself, you will attract people who will use you for their selfish gains.

Woman, be wise!

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I am a woman who is passionate about empowering other women to live their best lives and be free from unhealthy societal expectations. I'm a journalist and a columnist with a reputable media house. I educate, inspire and encourage women to embrace their uniqueness fully. I am a mother to an intelligent girl. I love perfumes.

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