“My marriage is not up to 2 years and my husband beats me whenever he’s angry” –Young woman cries out
A young Nigerian woman, identified as Uju Perpetual, has cried out online about being abused by her husband.
The woman who took to Facebook to share her predicament claimed she’s facing domestic abuse barely two years into her marriage.
According to Uju, her husband assaults her at the slightest provocation.
She said she wants to leave the marriage but is unsure if she’s making the right choice.
“My marriage is not up to 2 years, and my husband beats me whenever he gets angry. Any slight misunderstanding he barks at me and even beats me. And I want to quit the marriage, don’t know if am making the right choice?” she wrote on a Facebook group on Thursday, February 23.
Domestic violence (also known as domestic abuse or family violence) is violence or other abuse that occurs in a domestic setting, such as in a marriage or cohabitation.
Physical abuse is when someone hurts another person’s body. It includes h#tting, shaking, bu:rning, pinching, biting, ch0king, throwing, be@ting, and other actions that cause physical injury, leave marks, or cause pain.
Wife be@ting is physical abuse of a woman by her present or former husband or male companion. It consists of repeated blows inflicted with intent to do harm. Threats and verbal abuse that were preceded by beating are part of a pattern of control of a wife by her husband that is basic to wife beating.
One study of 96 cases of domestic abuse recorded by the police found that men are significantly more likely to be repeat perpetrators and significantly more likely than women to use physical violence, threats, and harassment.
Women and men are both most likely to agree that a husband is justified in hitting or beating his wife if she shows disrespect for her in-laws (32% and 31%, respectively), and are both least likely to agree that a husband is justified in hitting or beating his wife if she refuses to have sex with him (11% and 10%, respectively).
There are community norms and expectations that underlie men’s use of violence to maintain power and control over their partner.
Research has linked domestic violence to societal acceptance of male dominance, stereotyping of gender roles, and the normalisation of violence as a way to resolve conflict.
Relationship abuse is caused by
sense of entitlement. A belief they should have power and control over their partner. Belief that they can get away with it. Learned experience that being abusive gets them what they want.
Physical abuse can cause many chronic (long-lasting) health problems, including heart problems, high blood pressure, and digestive problems. Women who are abused are also more likely to develop depression, anxiety, or eating disorders. Women who are abused may also misuse alcohol or drugs as a way to cope.
